Navigating Life with ADHD: Understanding the Unique Struggles of Women in Therapy
- nktherapies17
- Oct 8
- 4 min read
Recently, more women are seeking therapy because of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) symptoms. Many step into therapy feeling confused and frustrated. Some realise they are different, while others aren’t sure what is wrong. They often describe a constant internal dialogue that starts as soon as they wake up and doesn’t stop until they fall asleep. This relentless mental state can be incredibly draining, leading to low self-esteem, decreased confidence, and a habit of self-blame.
These symptoms impact more than just personal feelings; they can disrupt relationships, academic success, and workplace performance. Many women recall experiences in school where they felt lost and overwhelmed. Research indicates that nearly 70% of women with ADHD report feeling inadequate during their education. This overwhelming sense of isolation can be especially profound. Even in social settings, they may feel completely alone, often relying on one close friend for comfort and safety.
When that friend begins to establish new connections, it can trigger intense feelings of fear and loneliness. Trusting others becomes a challenging task. As they enter the workforce, many women encounter a new set of obstacles. Job hunting can feel especially daunting, particularly when they are uncertain of their own strengths and career interests.
Interviews can feel overwhelming, with numerous questions and expectations creating an insurmountable barrier. Even when they land a job, many report losing interest within a few months. Approximately 60% of women with ADHD say they feel bored and restless at work, not knowing what kind of roles would truly fulfill them.
For these women, the greatest challenges often stem from their own minds. Whether dealing with processing difficulties or feeling like their thoughts are racing, the internal struggle can be unyielding.
The Hidden Symptoms of ADHD in Women
ADHD is often thought of as a childhood disorder, particularly among boys. However, symptoms can appear differently in women, often leading to underdiagnosis and insufficient understanding. Women typically show less hyperactivity and more symptoms of inattentiveness, which can make their struggles less noticeable.
Common symptoms include:
Difficulty concentrating on tasks, resulting in missed deadlines and unfinished projects.
Forgetfulness that may result in lost articles, missed appointments, or overlooked responsibilities.
A tendency to quickly feel overwhelmed by everyday tasks, which can lead to anxiety and frustration.
These issues can create a cycle of self-doubt as women grapple with societal, familial, and personal expectations.
By understanding these hidden symptoms, both therapists and clients can take a nuanced approach to treatment. This awareness helps women see they are not alone and encourages open discussions about their experiences.
The Impact on Relationships
ADHD can touch every aspect of a woman's life, especially her relationships. The inner chatter can interfere with genuine engagement with others, leading to misunderstandings and feelings of loneliness.
Women with ADHD may find it hard to sustain friendships, particularly if they feel unable to comply with social norms. Fear of judgment or misunderstanding can create walls between themselves and potential friends. The anxiety can intensify when a close friend starts to form new relationships, leaving them feeling abandoned and overwhelmed.
Therapy can provide a safe environment to unpack these feelings and develop strategies for nurturing relationships. Learning to openly communicate struggles can deepen connections with friends and family, fostering more supportive relationships.
Navigating the Workplace
For women with ADHD, entering the workplace can be a daunting journey. The stress of deadlines, performance expectations, and team dynamics can heighten feelings of inadequacy.
Many women find themselves in roles that do not align with their true passions, resulting in dissatisfaction. According to a survey, about 65% of women with ADHD report being unhappy in their jobs, often feeling lost about their career path.
Therapists can play a crucial role in helping women identify their unique strengths and preferences. Guidance in exploring career options that match their interests can lead to more fulfilling job choices. Additionally, developing coping strategies for workplace challenges can empower women to navigate their professional lives effectively.
Building Self-Esteem and Confidence
ADHD can significantly impact self-esteem. The habit of measuring oneself against others can easily create a negative self-image.
Therapy can be essential in rebuilding one's confidence. By emphasising strengths and personal achievements, women can learn to value themselves more.
Setting realistic goals and celebrating minor victories helps foster a more positive outlook. As women recognise their unique qualities, they can develop a self-worth that isn't dictated by external expectations.
Embracing the Journey
Facing life with ADHD can be a complex journey, especially for women dealing with distinct challenges. Awareness of symptoms and their impacts on personal life and relationships is vital for establishing supportive environments.
Therapy can offer a valuable space for women to explore their feelings, develop coping methods, and enhance self-esteem. By acknowledging their strengths and celebrating their individuality, women with ADHD can learn to navigate life with renewed confidence and resilience.
As our understanding of ADHD expands, it remains critical to foster a community that validates and supports women's experiences. Together, we can work toward a more inclusive understanding of ADHD, empowering women to flourish in all areas of life.
If you think counselling support could help you to understand yourself and be a little more okay with the person you are, please contact me (Natalie) and I can arrange a quick phone chat with you before you decide to book.
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